The first thing you do when your job gets fired is to try and find something new to do.
It’s an obvious choice, right?
After all, there’s nothing more frustrating than a new job.
And while many people will be happy to move on to something else, this is often a time when people have little to no confidence in the future.
“The fear is that if you leave, you’re just a loser,” says one former manager.
“There’s no sense of what the future holds for you.”
That’s because there are few jobs that pay more than $20 per hour, which means you’ll have to take time off to make up for the loss of your job.
There’s a huge amount of uncertainty in your future, and the people who are in the most positions to help you in that time are often the ones who will be the least able to help.
“You’re not going to be able to do anything else.
It makes it very difficult,” says Mark Phelan, a former manager at a technology company.
The reality of this is that while you might not be in a position to help someone else out, you might be able do something to make their job better.
Here are some tips on how to take care of yourself if you’ve lost your job and how to keep your boss happy when he or she leaves you.
Don’t give up on yourself When you’re trying to figure out what to do next, it’s important to keep things in perspective.
People who have lost their jobs tend to take a very long time to get over it.
“I was a very happy person when I was laid off.
I was on a plane that was scheduled to land in Mexico, and I was sitting in the cabin, and my wife had been working there for the last two years,” Phelas says.
“She was a really sweet person, and we were very happy together.”
But you can’t get a sense of happiness by just being happy.
Phelans advice for someone who’s been laid off is to start thinking about the future and what you can do to help yourself.
“Think about what you’ve accomplished.
You have to start to think about what the next thing is going to entail,” he says.
If you’re in a situation where you have some money, you can spend it on something else that’s a more important priority, such as buying a new car or getting a new apartment.
“It’s a good time to start planning out what you’re going to do with the money,” Phesan says.
Take a vacation It’s no secret that there’s a lot of pressure to get your work done in a timely fashion.
And it’s not uncommon for companies to put a lot more work into their workers than they do on their own employees.
“When you’re laid off, you have a lot less time to plan out your vacation,” Phelsan says, adding that this can have a negative impact on the quality of your work.
“People tend to want to go to places where they feel they can relax and feel like they’re going somewhere they’ve never been before, and that’s not necessarily the case,” he explains.
“If you’re able to plan it out, then you’re likely to get the most out of your vacation.”
Phelesan suggests that you make a list of what you want to do on your vacation, and start making plans to do it.
If your vacation plan doesn’t include vacationing, you should consider taking a holiday instead.
“Try and do it for as many different reasons as possible, and try to do the things you love the most,” Pherans advice says.
Don’ t be too critical When you’ve been laidoff, you may be feeling the pressure to be critical of the company’s decision.
“One of the hardest things to deal with is when people say that you were wrong, that they were wrong to let you go,” Phersan says on this topic.
“Be realistic and don’t be too harsh.”
Instead, focus on what’s going on in the office.
“What I would do if I were your boss, I would start thinking, ‘If you can come in here and do your job properly, I can’t tell you anything else,'” he says, and he would do that without ever questioning what he’s doing.
Pheilsans advice is that you take some time to be honest with yourself.
Instead of constantly telling yourself that you’re not perfect, “you could start to see what you do and what is working for you,” he advises.
Start a blog You may be wondering why you should write a blog in the first place, but Pheelsan suggests writing one for yourself.
This will help you see how you’re doing and help you figure out how you can improve,